I usually am not one to take advice from others – I have a stubborn disposition which can, at times, be a hindrance to not only myself but those around me. Despite this deeply-rooted tendency to reject the guidance of others, I seem to be more than happy to dish it out, whether it was asked for or not.
As my 20th birthday looms closer, I have been in a state of reflection. The first two decades of our lives are so integral in shaping who we are. I have had so many opportunities to grow as an individual and learn from my mistakes and so I wanted to pass on some of the many things I have learnt on my journey. Read on and consider these pieces of advice, regardless of whether you want to hear them or not 😉
1. It is okay to say no to things: you don’t have to be a Yes (Wo)Man just so you won’t hurt other people’s feelings.
2. Broaden your horizons: whether it be a new genre of music, travelling to somewhere off the beaten track or trying that Asian restaurant down the corner you’ve been too nervous to go to; just go for it!
3. A simple “Hey, how’s it going?” message will go a long way: you never know how much the other person may need it.
4. Procrastination will always come back to bite: I became quite good friends with procrastination in my final semesters at university and it was a horribly toxic relationship that never ended well. Just do what you need to do as soon as you can before the procrastination dread sets in.
5. Take the time to do nothing: and I mean exactly that. Be alone with your thoughts, reflect, close your eyes. In such an over-stimulated world, we must learn to relax. Be still.
6. Empathy is far more important than you may think: listen to those around you and put yourself in their shoes, you may learn a thing or two.
7. Be gutsy: trust your instincts and make that first move. If you don’t, I can guarantee you’ll regret it in the long run.
8. Do not degrade your worth for the sake of others: you should be proud of what makes you special, whether it be a certain talent, quality or achievement. Do not degrade yourself and whittle yourself down in order to make others feel comfortable around you. If they are not celebrating who you are, they do not value you as they should.
9. Sometimes you just need to eat that whole block of chocolate: we all have our good days, our bad days, and our my-life-is-falling-apart-and-the-ground-is-crumbling-beneath-me days. You aren’t weak for letting yourself be vulnerable.
10. Your mum is usually right: as much as you don’t want to hear this, it’s true.
11. Don’t waste time worrying about what others think of you: other people’s opinions shouldn’t dictate how you live your life. Be your true and unadulterated self no matter what that might be.
12. Eye contact is key: you can tell so much from just the look in people’s eyes. Not only does it improve your connection with that person by looking them in the eye, but there can be so much emotion hidden behind them if you take the time to look.
13. Don’t bottle things up: if you’re holding onto worries or thoughts, not saying anything will not do you any good. Let it out; trust me, you’ll feel better for it.
14. Don’t keep toxic people in your life: you should not feel obligated to keep people in your life if they are negatively impacting your mental health or causing you unnecessary stress and hardship. It is okay to cut ties with them, do not feel guilty for it.
15. Make an effort to see your friends: you may find it difficult as you grow up to keep in contact or find the time for your friends, but do not lose sight of their importance in your life. They are a lifeline, cherish them as such.
16. Compare the
market meerkat, not yourself: comparing yourself to others will only discourages you and fosters jealousy. Focus on yourself and how far you’ve come to be the person you are today.
17. Don’t dwell on your mistakes: it really is just a part of life. No matter how big or small, we all make mistakes; it’s how we learn.
18. Don’t let anyone tell you what to do with your body: it belongs solely to you and no-one else. Others do not get to decide what you should and shouldn’t do with the body you were given.
19. Reflect on your emotions: experience them to their full potential; do not push them away. If you take the time to evaluate what you are feeling and why, you may learn a lot about yourself.
20. Just be kind: be a decent human being and show compassion and kindness to everyone you meet; the world will be a better place for it.
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